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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • Lmao beautiful. Yeah, I know someone people are just flat inconsiderate and that’s fine. It’s more for me anyways to assume they aren’t an intentional asshole. I do think everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt, but I’m aware that excuses some assholes that shouldn’t be as well. I’m at a point in life where I’d rather let a few of them pass than accuse someone whose intentions weren’t malicious. Honestly though… I still mutter “asshole” to myself regardless of who they are lol, I just try to mentally check in on why they might not be.




  • I absolutely do pay attention to the lines and am fastidious about not being too close to other vehicles. I’m just saying I see how this can happen, even if I could never see myself doing this.

    Distracted people do bone head things and most anyone can be caught up in their own head. It might be that they have multiple sources of high stress overwhelming them, or they had some shocking news, or they are just flat out trying to figure a problem in their life.

    I try to give people the benefit of the doubt more now. I try to look for a logical mistake, like in this case coming in the lot in the wrong direction and not paying attention to the lines and realizing not everyone is fastidious as me about parking, I can see the potential for an error like this. Assuming everything is intentional just makes more people upset. Assuming intentionality also dehumanizes the person a little because they aren’t given the chance to be a human that made a mistake.

    That’s not to say I never think people are assholes or idiots. I just try to think of a frame for the action. It’s still irresponsible of them to do this, but seeing that as unintentional first instead of intentional first helps me not be as upset with them.