What do I even describe this to a therapist as? My partner doesn’t want say they are asexual but all the signs are there. Help me be cool with it when I’m the literal opposite end of the spectrum? I feel if I stop trying, then that’s me giving up on her.
Yeah basically what you wrote is accurate. No therapy though. She won’t take it. I asked several times.
I think the crux of issue is a blame myself for all this. I get told no " it’s not you, it’s me" but I still feel like a failure of a partner.
Not OP case but 2 decades later with no change is demoralizing.
Nothing has worked consistently.
Does she enjoy it? sometimes but It’s like taking out the trash. 0 sex again would have zero impact. Liquor helps but only drinks at restaurants and only with a meal. So 99% of the time, just too full to make use of it. Suspected the bc but she was off them for a few years, no change. No medication either. Lost weight 0 change. In college, we thought it was Stress levels but it’s lower now with no change.
Now no cuddles or daily massages would be an issue for her. Withhold for a few days and watch that blow up.
It’s always been a chasm in the relationship.
Literally thinking of going back to the old country. Least I could own a compound for that i pay for a caravan in a first world country. If only I liked sun…
For my area it’s all of them. Could have afforded a home a few years back. If you bought in 2014, 23000 got you a massive home with 4 car garage. Now that how is 600000.
my partner just want cuddles.
I like eating peaches!
We are not the same.
What if she’s been on BC for almost 20 years and never masturbates ever because it doesn’t “work” Toys also do not “work”. Also eating peach with different methods with genuine enthusiasm doesn’t work.
Note: This is not /s I’m being legit.
As it should be!
Depending on what causes the sterility it could be managed through diffecountries. It’s like huge spark to class warfare instantly. especially for less well off counrries.
What you don’t agree that handing bowels is bad!?
I never liked bowels. More fun to hand fist fulls of candy.
That was a horror cause he wasn’t willing. If he was willing then it would be like cult mechanicus, ghost in the shell, or Adam smasher. Embrace the certainly of steel! Or course if your brain is damaged and you can’t die that is a curse.
Vampires are always like this in stories. I feel like reality might be more like ergo proxy. Where what is a relationship that tastes 10 or 200 years compared to thousands?
Sounds like you have time to figure out alternatives. Like cyborgetics or using cloned parts.
Those are good examples. Seems in line with the DNC. Which is in part why I became disillusioned by them.
I know you are right and it’s sad. Alternative timeline Pete campaigning in Texas “coming to give you more guns” would totally been called a trap by GOP.
DNC probably won’t get more progressive for next round and will pull something to make them lose votes. Won’t be surprised of they go more right. Maybe drop anti gun laws? That would be a good move to get more GOP votes and the cost of diehard anti-gun people. I don’t know if that math’s. If there is a next round…
More implies failures. Enough and Dude is gonna pull a Putain and be kept in a bunker. That will break him emotionally. maybe there is a silver lining.
I know your right with what you wrote.
It was that level of persistence I got my partner in the first place but if there is no “cure” then i should apply it to fix myself to match? I lack the imagination to do something that isn’t cheating or internet since I’m too scared to try mind altering medication. I’m real curious what pro has to say. I have nothing to lose…probably.