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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • +1 for Signal. It’s already on my phone, and already on my PC and laptop. It is a simple Flatpak install on Linux. It’s end-to-end encrypted. I use that for one-off notes and files between my phone and my PC or between my laptop and PC.

    For notes and small files that I know I’ll want to save to reference at another time, I put them in my KeePassXC database because that’s already set to sync between devices.


  • That’s so true. I studied Ba. Information Technology for two years in 2004-2005 and dropped out due to family reasons, then I went back 10 years later and did Ba. Software Engineering in 2013-2016.

    In both instances, it was clear about half those enrolled in the programme were only in it for the money, you could tell that some people were just not excited about software. They were the ones who had dropped out by the end of first year.

    The other lot were those who did find it exciting, but severely underestimated the difficulty of the discipline. These were the kind of people who have can edit game config files to add a bunch of mods to Skyrim, they consider themselves a tech wiz want to study to be a game developer. But they barely pass intro to Web programming with html and JS in the first year and fail the first oracle database course in second year. I had some good friends who failed out hard in second year of software engineering for that reason.






  • I’m also a landmark graduate, and I can confirm it is a life changing experience.

    Doing the forum allowed me to realise I have so much wasted potential, I didn’t have to be working minimum wage repairing laptops at the local computer store, I enrolled at University in a IT degree with the goal to be a software engineer. Doing the forum gave me the confidence to tell my boss I’m quitting and going to be a full time student and how that’s a good thing for him. The forum gave me the confidence to talk honestly with my wife about what I want from our marriage, instead of me constantly trying to appease her wants. It caused me to have a real, meaningful, deep conversation with my mother, for the first time in 20 years. I was able to tell her frankly that her narcissistic tendencies in my formative years caused me to suffer from debilitating chronic anxiety in my 20s (my sister too), but it’s okay because she did the best she could, and I’m getting it treated.

    I went on to do the Self-Expression and Leadership course, and later the Advanced course. My wife did the same. I eventually stopped because of the endless and relentless hard-sell routines to get all your friends and family to come and sign up. They have to realise that’s off-putting to most people, but it’s their only marketing avenue so it must work reasonably well.





  • Yep, this is the reason. I have many different identity key files in my ~/.ssh folder, and for some reason ssh always tries all of those first, then exhausts the login tries and doesn’t ask for a password.

    I have the same problem when I specify a specific private key file with -i ./path/to/priv.key. If that key is different than the ones in my .ssh folder, it will use all those first before the specified one, and often exhausts login attempts giving a very hard to diagnose login failure. In that case I need -o IdentitiesOnly yes option to tell ssh to only use the one I specified.




  • I’ve experienced both.

    I worked up the courage to ask her out after some of her friends assured me she was single, and said I had a good chance.

    She was great about it, said she was flattered and let me down gently with the “oh, I would, but sorry I have a boyfriend” line. I thought it was an excuse to soften the rejection.

    A week later I saw her walking on campus holding hands with a guy, and later I saw her in class sitting on his lap. Turns out she really did have a secret boyfriend for almost a month that she didn’t tell her friends about, but after she said it to me, she felt she could make it public.

    To answer your question, getting rejected was not as bad as I thought, but seeing her with someone else was unexpectedly worse for me.

    I dropped out of that uni at the end of the semester and never saw her again, but still occasionally think about her.